Like most working moms (and stay-at-home moms too), I often find myself overwhelmed with keeping up with IT ALL- Housework, cooking, being a good mom, being a good wife, and making time for myself. Recently I came across a “5 P’s Questionnaire.” Each “P” represents 5 common categories that we as moms may find ourselves trying to balance in life. The “5 P’s” include prayer, person, partner, parent, and provider.
Here is the questionnaire…
Am I praying daily?
Do I dedicate my full attention to prayer?
Do we incorporate family prayer into our daily lives?
Do I have a set prayer time that I honor, even when it’s difficult?
Do I attend mass weekly? Do I participate fully and actively?
Am I making time for other faith devotions, such as Adoration, Confession, spiritual reading, and silent time with God?
Am I meeting my basic physical needs? Am I eating well, exercising, sleeping, showering, keeping refreshed, going to the doctor and dentist regularly, etc.?
Do I have enough alone time?
Have I allowed myself time to regularly meet and keep up with friends?
Am I making sure I set aside time to pursue personal interests? (reading, writing, photography, sewing, etc.)
Do I recognize that I must ultimately first serve my spouse, and then my children?
Do I set aside times of the day to dedicate just to my husband?
Do we have periodic date nights? (date nights at home count!)
Do I respect his wishes in rearing our children? Or do I walk over him because I take care of the children for more hours per week, and thus must have the final say-so?
Am I kind and loving toward my husband, especially in front of our children?
Do I respect his own needs for alone time?
Do I give him my best as often as I can, or do I only give him my worst?
Do I actively seek to include him in my life and to be interested in his?
Am I mentally available for my children when they need me?
When I’m sitting there with them, am I really there?
Do I offer my company to my children before my presences is absolutely necessary?
Am I pleasant towards my children?
Do I show them how much I love them?
Do I make efforts to provide them with age-appropriate and stimulating activities and environments?
Am I incorporating our faith and values into their daily lives?
Is the house kept clean enough to provide a healthy, sanitary environment for my family?
Is the home safe?
Does my family eat healthfully?
Am I keeping the number of hours I work in healthy check?
Do I give my children a welcoming home and stable schedule?
Is the home and laundry regularly maintained and cleaned for happier living?
How it works…
Each “P” is essential to keeping a healthy and balanced lifestyle, however it is unrealistic that any mom would answer “yes” to all of these questions, nor should they be expected to. Thus, I have chosen to focus on answering “yes” to one question per category each week. For example I may set a goal one week to pray daily, set aside time to read each night before bed, schedule a date night with my husband on Saturday, keep my phone and computer off until after my kids go to bed, and provide my family with a cooked meal each night for dinner.
No mom can do it all! This questionnaire is simply a way to reflect each week on the things that are important for your happiness and rid some of the guilt that often comes with being a working mom.
Finally, I leave you with this!